Rules

For both rooms

• Everyone here is 18 or over.
• No threats and no violence.
• No spam and no advertising.
• Nothing involving children. At the slightest doubt, report it — we block first and ask afterwards.

Talk

• Flirting happens, and that is fine. Pushing it is not.
• "No" means no, the first time.
• Explicit talk belongs in 18+, not here.

18+

• Grown-up subjects are what this room is for. Nobody gets blocked for them.
• Still no minors. Ever, anywhere.
• No pressure. The other person can stop at any word.
• Don't offer paid services — that's a ban.
• No links to other sites in your first message.

Reports and blocks

There is no live moderation here. There are reports, and they work automatically.

• Three different people report you within an hour — search closes for 1 hour. No human decides that one.
• An automatic block applies to the room the reports came from. The other room stays open.
• A block we place by hand covers the whole site and can last longer. That is our answer to children, threats and selling.
• A report is anonymous — the other person never learns who sent it.
• If a chat is reported, we read it. That is the one case where anyone reads what you wrote.

Think it's a mistake?

On the "Search is paused" screen there is a box — write to us right there. One message per block, up to 500 characters. We read them by hand and either lift the block or say no. The text is kept for 30 days and then deleted.